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Nurturing Calm: Using Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy Techniques to Manage Children's Anger

Updated: Feb 12

Anger is a natural emotion that all children experience, but learning how to manage it effectively is a crucial skill for their emotional well-being and social development. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) offers practical strategies to help children understand and regulate their anger in healthy ways. In this article, we will explore how parents and caregivers can use CBT techniques to teach children how to manage their anger and cultivate emotional resilience.


Child staring out of the window calming after anger
Children struggle with understanding their anger

Understanding Anger in Children:

Anger is a normal response to frustration, disappointment, or perceived injustice. However, when left unchecked, it can lead to disruptive behavior, strained relationships, and even physical harm. Children may struggle to express their anger appropriately due to limited coping skills or difficulty identifying and communicating their emotions.


CBT for Anger Management:

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is a structured, evidence-based approach that helps children recognise and change the thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that contribute to their anger. When applied to anger management, CBT typically involves the following components:

  1. Identifying Triggers: Helping children identify the situations, events, or thoughts that trigger their anger. This may include perceived injustices, frustration with tasks, or feeling misunderstood by others.

  2. Recognising Physical and Emotional Cues: Teaching children to recognise the physical and emotional signs that indicate they are becoming angry. This may include increased heart rate, muscle tension, clenched fists, or feelings of irritation.

  3. Challenging Negative Thoughts: Encouraging children to challenge negative or irrational thoughts that contribute to their anger. This may involve questioning assumptions, considering alternative perspectives, and reframing situations in a more positive light.

  4. Learning Coping Skills: Teaching children healthy coping skills to manage their anger constructively. This may include deep breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, counting to ten, or taking a break to cool off.

  5. Problem-Solving: Helping children develop problem-solving skills to address the underlying issues that contribute to their anger. This may involve brainstorming solutions, considering the consequences of different actions, and practicing effective communication.

  6. Assertiveness Training: Teaching children assertiveness skills to express their needs and feelings in a respectful and assertive manner. This includes using "I feel" statements, active listening, and negotiating compromises.


Practical Tips for Parents:

In addition to CBT techniques, parents can implement the following practical tips to help their children manage anger effectively:

  • Model Healthy Coping: Demonstrate healthy ways of managing anger through your own behavior and communication with others.

  • Create a Safe Environment: Foster an environment where children feel safe to express their emotions without fear of judgment or punishment.

  • Set Clear Expectations: Establish clear expectations for behavior and consequences, and consistently enforce boundaries.

  • Encourage Open Communication: Encourage children to express their feelings openly and honestly, and validate their experiences without minimising or dismissing their emotions.

  • Practice Patience and Empathy: Be patient and empathetic when helping children navigate their emotions, and offer support and guidance while they work out alternative options.


Anger is a normal and natural emotion, but learning how to manage it effectively is a crucial skill for children's emotional well-being and social development. Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy offers practical strategies to help children recognise, understand, and regulate their anger in healthy ways. By teaching children coping skills, problem-solving techniques, and assertiveness training, parents and caregivers can empower them to navigate their emotions and build resilience for the future.

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